Friend
Definition
Friend is one of the Ten Gods, sharing both the same elemental nature and the same Yin-Yang polarity as the Day Master. It represents the self, peers, and competitors. Friend symbolizes an independent and self-reliant spirit; individuals with Friend in their chart tend to be resolute, highly self-respectful, and skilled at acting autonomously—but may also become stubborn and unwilling to compromise.
How to Find
Using the Day Master’s Heavenly Stem as the reference point, identify other Heavenly Stems in the Four Pillars that share both the same elemental nature and the same Yin-Yang polarity. For example, for a Jia Wood Day Master, another Jia Wood stem is Friend; for a Bing Fire Day Master, another Bing Fire stem is Friend.
Attributes
Chart Meanings
Combinations
Multiple Friends
Excessive Friends indicate excessive strength of the Day Master, potentially leading to arrogance and self-will; favorable outcomes require either dispersing excess energy through Food God or Hurting Officer, or exercising control through Direct Officer or Seven Killings (Guan-Sha).
Friend with Food God
Friend generates Food God; excess strength is dispersed, enabling talent expression—resulting in a harmonious, creative, and amiable disposition.
Friend Meeting Seven Killings
Friend resists Seven Killings; a strong Day Master can shoulder great responsibilities, indicating strong competitiveness and stress resilience—suitable for pioneering and entrepreneurial endeavors.
Examples
For a Jia Wood Day Master with the Year Pillar 'Jia Zi', the Year Stem 'Jia Wood' is Friend, suggesting peer rivalry during youth or the presence of siblings in the family.