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Friend

Ten Gods
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Definition

Friend is one of the Ten Gods, sharing both the same elemental nature and the same Yin-Yang polarity as the Day Master. It represents the self, peers, and competitors. Friend symbolizes an independent and self-reliant spirit; individuals with Friend in their chart tend to be resolute, highly self-respectful, and skilled at acting autonomously—but may also become stubborn and unwilling to compromise.

How to Find

Using the Day Master’s Heavenly Stem as the reference point, identify other Heavenly Stems in the Four Pillars that share both the same elemental nature and the same Yin-Yang polarity. For example, for a Jia Wood Day Master, another Jia Wood stem is Friend; for a Bing Fire Day Master, another Bing Fire stem is Friend.

Attributes

elementSame element as the Day Master
yinYangSame Yin-Yang polarity as the Day Master
categorySupport Star

Chart Meanings

Year Pillar：Ancestors may include independent entrepreneurs, or the relationship with elders is egalitarian; the individual displays independence during childhood.
Month Pillar：Many siblings; intense peer competition; cooperation and rivalry coexist in career matters.
Day Pillar：Spouse has a strong-willed personality; mutual inflexibility exists between spouses; greater tolerance is required in marriage.
Hour Pillar：Children are highly independent; the individual maintains strong autonomy in old age—but children may live far away.

Combinations

Multiple Friends— Excessive Friends indicate excessive strength of the Day Master, potentially leading to arrogance and self-will; favorable outcomes require regulation by Eating God or Hurting Officer (to disperse excess energy) or control by Seven Killings or Direct Officer.
Friend with Eating God— Friend generates Eating God; robust constitution with healthy energy discharge enables talent expression, resulting in a harmonious, creative, and amiable disposition.
Friend Meeting Seven Killings— Friend resists Seven Killings; a strong Day Master can shoulder great responsibilities, indicating strong competitiveness and stress resilience—suitable for pioneering and entrepreneurial endeavors.

Examples

For a Jia Wood Day Master with the Year Pillar 'Jia Zi', the Year Stem 'Jia Wood' is Friend, suggesting peer rivalry during youth or the presence of siblings in the family.

Related Terms

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